Welcome to Hate on Juan Pablo Day, 2014. I'm thinking we may make this an annual thing, since Juan Pablo is the stand-in for every man who's ever wronged a woman -- and he can't stop, won't stop doing things that piss us off. Like what Juan Pablo told Clare in the helicopter in the finale. Remember how angry she was? Sweet Clare, who really did seem to be falling for the guy, despite all those Mr. Wrong signals he was giving off. If you weren't already thoroughly disgusted with this season's Bachelor, this one will definitely send you over the edge.
Okay, so just in case you weren't watching, here's some context. On the show, Clare says Juan Pablo insulted her during an off-camera moment on their helicopter ride in St. Lucia. “Juan Pablo leaned over and whispered something to me. He chose to tell me something that no woman wants to hear,” she says in her "In The Moment" interview. “I almost ... I don’t have words for it, how I feel right now.”
WHAT!!! What did he say???
According to a insider, Clare was prodding Juan Pablo, saying, "Just tell me you love me." (Oh Clare ... ) And what did Juan Pablo say? "I really loved f---ing you."
O_O
Ohhh. That's really bad.
In the history of terrible things to say to emotionally vulnerable women asking men to love them, that's almost the worst thing you could possibly say. Even saying, "I didn't like f---ing you" would be better, because at least you wouldn't feel so used. Once again, Juan Pablo has played the slut card against Clare. And it must have hurt twice as much this time.
For the record, "I really loved f---ing you" actually IS something a lot of women want to hear. Just not under these circumstances. You can say that, guys, AFTER you've told us you love us about 800 times. Or after a one-night stand when we've just told you we had fun, and good luck with your life, and if we're ever in Cincinnati again, we'll look you up, like, maybe. You can say it then.
Otherwise, when someone asks you to tell her you love her, and you don't love her, here is the appropriate response:
God, I wish I could say that, Clare. You are so amazing, so worthy of love. I owe it to you to be honest with you, because I respect you so much. You deserve someone who truly loves you. There must be something wrong with me, because I just don't feel that way. I hope you find someone truly deserving of your big heart.
Now. Was that so hard? Honestly, I hope now that some time has passed and Clare has gotten some perspective, she'll see she dodged a bullet by not winning Juan Pablo's empty, shallow heart.
How would you feel if someone told you what Juan Pablo told Clare?
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