Brides, we're thrilled you're getting married. And we're touched deeply when you ask us to be part of your wedding party. We're touched deep in our hearts ... and deep, deep in our pockets as well. Did you know that it now costs $600 to be a wedding guest? That's what a survey by American Express says people are spending on bridesmaid dresses, bachelorette parties, travel, hotel, hair, makeup -- pretty much everything but the actual wedding gift. Yikes! When did this spending get so out of control?
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I'm assuming it's a little more than that for bridesmaids and a little less for the guys since women usually spend more on grooming and clothes. So what is that, at least $200 for a dress that can only be worn once (let's be realistic), plus more for alterations. $100 for the shoes. $100 for hair. We're already at $400, and we haven't even factored in hotel, travel, and the bachelorette party. So now that we start doing the math, I can see how this could climb up toward a grand!
Okay, I'm hyperventilating now. Can anyone actually afford to share the love when their friends get married? It's such a high price. Many people end up putting it on a credit card and spending the next few months paying it all off. But what if you have a few friends getting married this summer? Ooh, that's painful for your bank account.
I think this is a good moment to remind brides that while we all understand this is your DREAM wedding and you want everything to be perfect, you need to be considerate of the people in your party. Please do not turn them upside-down and shake out every last penny from their pockets for the sake of your vision.
After all, the wedding isn't actually all about you. It's about your friends and family. Help them feel loved and included by not making them go broke.
How much do you think is a reasonable amount of money a guest should spend on a wedding?
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